"Don't judge or compare."
"Only be positive."
"Don't sweat the small stuff."
"Don't think THAT."
"Only think THIS."
"Be peaceful and happy and perfect - ALWAYS."
That's it, folks. Have a great day! And if you're not, just stop it! Maybe yell harder at yourself that you're not living up to your full potential and then you'll be that much closer to it!
...no wonder we're tired.
IT'S HARD TO CONTROL SOMETHING YOU CAN'T CONTROL
If I dictated my thoughts I assume I'd be happy and zen all the time.
But, if you're like me, dictating thoughts could be synonymous with wizardry.
If you're like me, you don't wake up in the morning and pre-author the thoughts you'll have for the day.
I mean, do you ever sit up after your alarm goes off to begin scripting, in detail, your think-plan?
Today I choose to have a bad day!
"As soon as I get out of bed I'm going to stress about everything I have to do, around 1 o'clock I'll obsess over what I haven't accomplished yet, then I'll go on Facebook to compare my life to someone else's and feel inferior. Later, I'll make an excuse to not exercise and then right before I fall asleep I'll imagine I'll never do anything of lasting value with my life."
...and yet, when these thoughts show up and we believe we're the ones making them happen (or that we are them) shame and guilt are born.
WHAT IF THOUGHTS JUST HAPPEN?
What if they just show up and do their thang- they THINK! They imagine, guess, assume, compare, theorize, anticipate, remember, judge, conclude...
Could it be that you are not the voice in the head?
THOUGHTS AREN'T A PROBLEM
Would there be any harm in a thought if you didn't believe it?
Let's say you strive to be an accepting and kind person and BAM! you notice the mind start to attack someone's appearance.
If you knew, beyond a doubt, that thoughts just happen; that it's not you doing the judging- what could that experience be like?
When the thought isn't equivalent with who you are, notice how you're able to relate to it.
For me, it can go something like this:
1. A thought arises that's criticizing a person's appearance.
2. Awareness: I notice that the judging is happening.
3. Acknowledge that it's a thought: "Oh, the mind's judging."
It wouldn't mean that I'm a bad person, that I'm unkind, or that I'm not good enough. It would just be what it is- a thought.
The invisible string of imagined letters is actually pretty benign when it's simply seen for what it is.
In the same way that you can listen to a friend share, hear song lyrics on the radio, or witness the characters of your favourite show - you have the capacity to observe your mind without being defined by it.
"Thoughts just appear. They come out of nothing and go back to nothing, like clouds moving across the empty sky. They come to pass, not to stay. There is no harm in them until we attach to them as if they were true."